Dear Annie: I met this guy, “Bill,” through work. We hit it off. He’d told me he was single. Later, I found out through a mutual colleague that Bill had a girlfriend, “Julie,” a divorced lady with two kids, but he wouldn’t be able to marry her because his family wouldn’t approve their marriage. So, I confronted him. He stated that she was not his girlfriend and that our colleague made the whole story up. Bill and I started dating, and, after a while, I found out that he was still seeing this lady and hanging out with her. I confronted him again, and he stated that it’s not going anywhere with her, and she knows that. I think, deep inside, she thinks she is dating a loyal guy and is waiting for him to propose soon.

I realized that Bill is just using Julie to kill time to have someone to hang out with because he doesn’t want to be alone. But he doesn’t want to commit to either one of us. So, when she is not available, I am available, and vice versa. I feel sorry for her because she has no clue what is happening. She is wasting her time on someone who won’t commit to her. I know her name, her Facebook account, where she lives and lots more. I want to tell her the truth about Bill, but Bill will know that it was me who told her the truth. I’m scared because I don’t know what his reaction will be, and he knows where I live. Should I tell her the truth about this man? — Bad Romance

Dear Bad Romance: I commend you for wanting to help this poor woman. But it sounds as though you’d be putting yourself at risk. Focus on making a clean break from busy Bill, and trust that the other woman will see the light in time.

If you’re afraid for your safety due to possible retaliation, call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233 for guidance.

Dear Annie: I’m writing in response to “Deeply Depressed,” the person who cries about sad things that happen to others. I want to say she is likely an empath. I suggest she look up resources out there for helping empaths. Judith Orloff’s books are an excellent resource, and Orloff runs a Facebook group for empaths. If “Depressed” goes online and gets plugged into these resources, she will connect with others who have very similar reactions to the sadness of others. — Lea R.

Dear Lea: Thank you for sharing these resources. I’ve heard good things about Judith Orloff’s books, especially “The Empath’s Survival Guide.”