Dear Annie: I’ve been with this guy off and on for 26 years. We are the best of friends. We do everything together that would have us a couple. Well, just a few weeks ago he told me he had “hooked up” with someone we both know. She is the wife of a friend who was just sent to prison. Now, she keeps texting and calling him, telling him she loves him and can’t wait to feel his touch again. What really bugs me is that it sounds like the two of them were more intimate than he and I have ever been.

When I bring up how her texting bothers me, he said that she annoys him, too and realizes that hooking up with her was bad. He won’t acknowledge the texts she sends and does not answer her calls. But she doesn’t get the hint.

Lately, I’ve started deleting some of her texts before he can read them. I texted her from my own phone to say that I’m a part of his life whether she or anyone else likes it. What more can I do to make her see that she’s wasting her time thinking he’s going to be with her? — Totally Stressed Out

Dear Stressed Out: The more useful question is why are you wasting your time on a man who won’t commit. It sounds like he’s not even recognized you as his girlfriend. And whether or not he replies to this other woman’s text messages, he clearly gets something out of the attention, or he’d have blocked her number.

You deserve to be with someone who wants to be with you entirely, not halfway.

Dear Annie: I just don’t know what to do. My husband is always talking and texting young girls. He’s even been slapping our granddaughter on the behind and wanting our younger granddaughter to kiss him on the lips. My daughter and I both said his behavior is unacceptable. He is no longer allowed around any of my grandchildren.

I told him that I wanted a divorce, and he said that he didn’t care and was not going anywhere.

So far, he’s been behaving himself. But I’ll never trust him again. And on top of this, I have people telling me he’s digging in trash cans for cigarette butts. — Disgraced, Disgusted

Dear Disgraced: I’m sorry you’re in this awful situation. From your letter, it sounds like this has been an abrupt personality shift. That could indicate a serious health problem such as dementia. You and your husband should consult his doctor, who can diagnose potential health issues or refer you to a specialist.