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March 18, 2014 - Jennifer Brookens
"Understand that friends come and go, but with a precious few you should hold on." - Mary Schmich

As my children grow and start needing friends their own age, it brings back memories of the friendships that have come and gone in my life. I am still in contact with my first "Best Friend" from second grade (thanks to Facebook)! We haven't been in touch our entire lives. She moved away when I was in fourth grade, and while we wrote lots of letters, by high school our changing lives allowed us to drift apart. We reacquainted for a while in college, but then lost touch again. Until 2009, when she found me on Facebook.

Since then, many people have come and gone in my life. There is a piece written that friends are there for a reason, a season or a lifetime. Much like the writing says, I've had plenty of reason and season friends. Many of them I still consider friends, even if we don't talk much anymore. There are some where it's over and there's no going back (yet I've learned to never say never!) Then there are those precious few; we can be separated by years and time zones, yet when we meet up we pick up right where we left off, not missing a beat.

When my daughter turns to me worried about friend problems, I know I'm not exactly soothing her fears and sadness when I tell her that friendships grow apart. Yet I have plenty of stories that show that growing apart is not always a bad thing, and some friendships can eventually come back around and be even better. It's only taken me most of my life to figure that out...

***** Reason, Season or Lifetime - Author Unknown *****

"People come into your life for a reason, a season, or a lifetime. When you figure out which one it is, you will know what to do for each person. When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed. They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally, or spiritually. They may seem like a godsend, and they are! They are there for the reason you need them to be. Then, without any wrongdoing on your part, or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end. Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away. Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand. What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled, their work is done. The prayer you sent up has been answered. And now it is time to move on.

When people come into your life for a SEASON, it's because your turn has come to share, grow, or learn. They bring you an experience of peace, or make you laugh. They may teach you something you have never done. They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy. Believe it! It is real! But, only for a season.

LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons, the things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person, and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life ... There is a role for every person we meet in life. Some are there to test us, some are there to love us and some are there to teach us. Then there are the rare amazing ones who bring out the best in us, the ones sent to remind us why it's all worth it."


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